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Wedding Sex – Virgin Or Not, It’s a Sacred Event

Question from Bride: “My husband is a virgin but I am not. I feel guilty that he saved himself for marriage. How can I make our wedding sex special when I’ve already had sex before with other men?”
Wedding sex is on a whole new level. Traditionally, people were supposed to wait until marriage, but it’s more of a rarity among couples today.

If you’re a religious couple, chances are higher that you’ve saved yourself for an amazing night of wedding sex.

But it’s more than just sex, regardless of whether or not you’ve been romantically entangled with someone previously. Wedding sex is the first moment the two of you will give yourselves to one another as husband and wife.

Even if you’ve already had intercourse with one another, wedding sex will be memorable and romantic and special because you’ve just joined your hearts in a celebration of commitment forever.
If you’re a virgin bride, you may have a lot of anxiety about wedding sex. That’s normal and your groom will probably understand if you’re open about your fears. The key is to make it an intimate moment. Read some guides that deal with intimacy, not just the act of sex itself.

Make sure you take your time and don’t rush your intimate moments that night. Wear something special for your wedding sex – lingerie fit for a beautiful bride. Linger in your first moments as husband and wife. And most of all – enjoy yourself!

Some couples even find wedding sex is out of the question after several days filled with high-stress, long hours and partying. That’s okay, too. No one said you MUST have sex on your wedding night. You want it to be special, so save it for when you’re full of energy if you want to!

You may even want to have a ceremony before the intimacy takes place (especially if you’re worried about not being a virgin bride). You can write vows only your husband will hear about devoting your body to him and he to you – anything romantic will do the job.

The Wedding Night & Sensual Lingerie – A Winning Combo!

Nowadays, people tend to get married a little bit older, with a more important and well-controlled budget. On the wedding night, the loss of virginity is no longer the turning point of their first night as a married couple. On this special night where everything, from A to Z, has been planned for months, if not years, women should aim for a unique and memorable set-up. Their mission is to re-enact their first ever love scene together. That is where sensual lingerie comes into play.

May it be to wear under the “very carefully chosen” wedding dress, or simply as the “well waited for” overnight surprise, very feminine, refined but also audacious pieces of lingerie remain the best choices. They must rime with seduction, intimacy, love and passion… and should revive the emotion of their first night.

Getting married becomes the best occasion for a woman to surpass herself and to purchase a “once in a lifetime” piece of lingerie to take her man’s breath away, once again. It is time for her to purchase THE item she has always been dreaming about. She has a wide variety of corsets, bustiers, garters, matching sets to choose from… coming in colors ranging from white, to ivory, pink, sand or powder, and a never ending list of materials. Being a special night where all fantasies come to life, feathers, pearls, rhinestones and fur can also be great additions.

More and more designers now also target this mostly seasonal audience, most sales occurring in January and onwards, while the lingerie is usually worn in the summer time.

Can anyone imagine what would be a wedding night without sensual lingerie? I personally can’t. It would simply be a waste! It is THE night all women have been waiting for. Might as well make the best out of it. 🙂

The Wedding Night – No Ration on Passion

Weddings as we know is where a bride and groom stands at the altar taking their vows pledging undying love for each other but not all countries do the same as we. Worldwide country cultures and beliefs differ greatly in the way they celebrate their wedding night.

Did you know that after a marriage has taken place some couples wedding night never goes according to plan due to all the activities concocted up by friends and family in a quest to upset the newlyweds plans of becoming one in the marital suite as early as they would like.

In the US it is habitual after the reception for the couple to jump into the vehicle that waits to take them on honeymoon only to find that the rear end of the car is fully geared up with rattling tin cans.

Tradition for the Gaelic culture is where close friends and family set out to delay the couple consummating their marriage in a fun sort of way. In the good old days the married couple would spend their wedding night in a hay barn. Close lady friends of the bride would dress her for bed and would invite every male species who attended the wedding to kiss her goodnight. What they did in the old days to add fun to the night would be things of disturbance making it hard for the groom to meet up with his new wife. When the couple finally come together noises would bellow from outside the barn with its (peephole) thus adding further embarrassment to the newlyweds.

It is just a matter of time when the alcohol kicks in sending the pranksters to sleep. Is it any wonder why in those days the honeymoon destination was kept a secret.

Other Celtic Scottish rituals performed on the wedding night was the sprinkling of water onto the bed which was considered to bring good luck.

Inhabitants of Germany and France uphold similar traditions where their disturbances on the wedding night are called Chiverie. The US spell it Shivaree, they also cause havoc by decorating the bridal suite with balloons or laying food all over the bed just for fun. A love in surrounded by crumbs is not very romantic.

They say when in Rome do as the Romans do but whatever you do dont fall as it is seen as bad luck if the bride takes a tumble on entering the newly weds first home. After the roman wedding all male friends of the married couple would carry the bride over the threshold. But times have changed where the groom has the pleasure, in saying that; he may need to ask for assistance if his bride is the size of Bessie Bunter.

In western Africa, (Benin), virginity is valued highly. The brides mother compensates her with money if still untouched by man on her wedding night! This may sound alarming but the sheets are checked for blood smears the next morning after the wedding night. I did say things were done differently in other countries and this just happens to be the custom in Benin. Sometimes the sheets were flown like flags from the window to show that the daughter never gave into temptation submitting her body to any other.

A Chinese wedding night consists of beautifully designed candles shaped like a phoenix and dragon to force away evil spirits. Wine is drunk from goblets tied together with a scarlet red sash while at the same time the newlyweds have their arms intertwined. It is now when the bride is handed half-raw dumplings which denotes prosperity.

Wait for it no ration on passion for brides from Marquesasian (Polynesia) who are expected to have sex with all the male guests – Heaven for bid if the numbers are great – the groom finally gets to sleep with his bride last.
Depending on the number of male guests surely this could go on for quite some time but at the end of the day I suppose the wait will be worthwhile because it is the groom who gets to sleep with her for the rest of his life.